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Psychologist Dr. Ajami: The Need for Safe Spaces for Victims

Psychologist Dr. Ajami: The Need for Safe Spaces for Victims

In this video psychologist Dr. Juhayna Ajami talks about the need to create a safe-space for victims to come forward and get help. As we posted last week, we can simultaneously believe victims and maintain innocent until proven guilty. In this video, Dr. Juhayna explains: “Victims are suffering through so many different emotions and feelings such …

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On Believing Victims and “Innocent Until Proven Guilty”

On Believing Victims and “Innocent Until Proven Guilty”

Believing victims has been a healthy step in acknowledging problems of abuse in the world. Like anything positive, if taken to an extreme there is a danger. The danger in this situation lies in presuming the guilt of everyone accused in the name of believing victims. Affirming due process and taking an accuser’s claim seriously, and …

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Interview with Mufti Nawaz: Addressing Sexual Abuse of Children

Interview with Mufti Nawaz: Addressing Sexual Abuse of Children

This is part 1 of our interview with Mufti Nawaz Khan. In this part we focus on spiritual abuse as it pertains to children and protocol we can establish to avoid its occurrence. Mufti Nawaz studied in South Africa where he obtained ijaazah to teach the traditional Islamic sciences and an ijaazah in iftaa (issuing legal opinions). …

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On “Grooming” and Child Sexual Abuse

On “Grooming” and Child Sexual Abuse

In many cases, child sexual abuse is not a sporadic event. Predators may engage in “grooming,” a process which entails identifying a potential victim, gaining their and their family’s trust, and desensitizing them to the abusive behavior. Some grooming behavior is difficult to identify because it seems benign and even positive to outsiders who are …

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Dr. Jane McGregor on the Sociopathic Transaction

Dr. Jane McGregor on the Sociopathic Transaction

Dr. Jane McGregor is an author, researcher and trustee of the UK based charity, the Society for Research into Empathy, Cruelty and Sociopathy (SoRECS). She has been a great help to our spiritual abuse research, particularly in understanding the dynamics of sociopathic transaction. Dr. McGregor wrote this post for In Shaykh’s Clothing to help us …

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Checks and Balances Amongst Imams: An Interview with Shaykh Tameem Ahmadi

Checks and Balances Amongst Imams: An Interview with Shaykh Tameem Ahmadi

By the time many victims come to us, they have already attempted to address their situation by seeking the help of other shaykhs/imams. Unfortunately, most of our religious leaders are woefully unprepared to address their situation and either do not understand what they are dealing with, completely ignore the victim’s problems, or even blame the …

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Why Other Imams Don’t Help: Losing Their Livelihood

Why Other Imams Don’t Help: Losing Their Livelihood

  We often ask why trustworthy imams don’t stand up to their abusive peers and hold them accountable. Unfortunately, many imams and community leaders are already overworked and under-compensated, which creates stress in their personal lives. Simple factors like healthcare become issues- even for imams in wealthy communities. Often, taking these controversial stances against abusers …

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What Is Rankism?

What Is Rankism?

“If we want to get rid of rankism in the spiritual communities we’re going to have to make the holders of high rank accountable to the parishioners in some way.“ People have different rank and positions in society and such rank is necessary for the function of a society.  Nevertheless, no matter what our differences …

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Recognizing a Wolf in Shaykh’s Clothing

Recognizing a Wolf in Shaykh’s Clothing

Over the past two decades, Islam in America has seen the rise of the “celebrity shaykh.”  While our scholars and da’ees (preachers) play an important role in our religion, a cult of personalities has replaced the roles of a knowledgable scholars of moral integrity.  Some Islamic “shaykhs” and preachers have gained so much clout that …

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